I started typing a long reply in a FaceBook group then realized it would be better placed here.
There are some topics in Librarianship that cycle around and back again. Sometimes they're initiated by a blog post someone read. Here's the article that started this discussion -- http://www.cbcdiversity.com/2013/05/searching-for-our-jeremy-lin.html#more
I've seen three different discussions today about Diversity in Librarianship. Whenever I hear someone ask "How do we get more diversity in Libraries?", my immediate thought is "Do we need more diversity in libraries?" The question assumes that as a fact to begin with, but it doesn't address it.
Maybe we need to define diversity before we start having this discussion. When you say diversity to someone of my years, I immediately go to school busing and the act of forcing children to attend a school further from their home just to even out the number of minorities in every school. That failed miserably. People want to attend schools in their neighborhood with their neighbors.
(I call it school busing, but the Wikipedia article calls it desegregation busing - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desegregation_busing )
I don't think we need that type of diversity in libraries or anywhere. I think society diversifies in its own way and in its own time.
I grew up in SE PA in a blue collar neighborhood in a blue collar city. I'm White, but grew up with a Black neighbor and Puerto Rican kid across the street that walked to school with me. I'm not "color-blind". I recognize friends and neighbors that are different races. I honestly don't care. I wasn't brought up to dwell on those differences. I played with all of those kids. The was a kid with Down's Syndrome around the corner. He had limitations, but he'd play some games, some times. Why not?
I still remember an event in High School that was identified by the local newspaper as a "Race Riot". In reality, it was a drug deal gone bad. It just happened the buyer was black and the dealer was white. When the fight broke out, it was all black guys on one side against all white guys on the other. But race had nothing to do with it.
At the end of senior year, there was an award assembly. There was actually a scholarship for the best academically performing Black. The kid that everyone expected to win stood up and some one else's name was read. We all wondered WTF? Matt is as White as they come. No he wasn't. He was interracial and we didn't know the kinky brown hair, tall height, and full lips were from his Black mother. He didn't scale as Black to us.
I had Black roommates in college, but I didn't socialize with them too much. I did socialize with a co-worker that lived a few doors down. He was Black, I'm not. Do you think folks were looking at me driving him to work and wondering what was going on? I doubt it even registered. That was the area we lived in.
I joined the Navy Reserve while in college and was surprised there were no minorities in my unit. After graduation, I entered active duty in the Air Force. My first duty station was Ft. Hood TX. The Army doesn't have weather forecasters, the Air Force does that at all Army bases with aviation assets. I noticed that the Army was primarily Black and Hispanic and the Air Force was mostly White. But we did have one Black & two Hispanic in a 20 person unit. I think I was seeing self-selection in progress. Army soldiers were mostly urban kids, while Air Force attracted the farmers and rural kids. No one is telling people what service to join. They join because of their family and/or friends. The coastal kids join the Navy. The crazy ones join the Marines.
I still remember the mandatory Sensitivity Training session I had at my first Air Force station. They passed around index cards and we all had to say the first thing that came to mind when we flipped over the cards. My card said "Nigger Lover." My response: How old are these cards?
Trainer: That is a current set. What makes you think that is old?
Me: No one says that anymore??? That's from the 60's.
Trainer: Anyone have a different view?
Some Other Guy: Sure. If you were hanging out on a Saturday night in my hometown you might hear that if a mixed couple showed up.
Me: What??? Who would even notice? Why would you care unless you were jealous that she was with him?
Trainer: Next...
This was >25 years ago, but I remember something else from that session. Someone said something about Indians going off the Reservation. The Trainer noticed a bunch of puzzled looks so he asked for some views from the rest of the room. Plenty of us were WTF??? Wasn't Indians and reservations something out of the 1880's? Those of us East of the Mississippi had no idea there were still reservations out West.
(I was later stationed in Oklahoma City, so I know that Native Americans are a visible minority in the Western US. They are totally invisible in the East.)
My history tells me society is diversified. With my house at the 6 o'clock position on the dial, 12 is Hispanic, 2 is Hispanic, 4 is a rental & I haven't seen the new tenants yet, 8 is Black, & 10 is White.
With all of that history, 50+ years of one man's life, I don't see a problem so I'm not concerned about finding a solution. So I've come full-circle, Why do we need to do anything to Diversify? Isn't society doing that on their own?
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Our Oklahoma City Home
Friends have asked about our Oklahoma City Home. The A marker is the house we rented while stationed at Tinker. The Red S is the Plaza Towers Elementary School.
Even more amazing to me. At this zoom, the path of the 1999 F5 Tornado shows as a tan line. The houses have been rebuilt, but the earth was so churned up that it still shows. I've circled the area in red to help you out, but the map is otherwise unmodified from Google Maps.
Even more amazing to me. At this zoom, the path of the 1999 F5 Tornado shows as a tan line. The houses have been rebuilt, but the earth was so churned up that it still shows. I've circled the area in red to help you out, but the map is otherwise unmodified from Google Maps.
Friday, May 10, 2013
My Friends in their little electronic boxes
Friends,
I
mean that salutation literally. You, dear readers, are the only friends I have
and that concerns me.
Let
me start the story in the beginning. Like most folks my age, I grew up playing
outside with the neighborhood kids. Everyone within a block and within 2 years
+/- my age were my friends. This continued thru my school years with only the
range increasing to larger than a block and/or to being centered on specific
places. I had school friends that I didn't see in the summer; Synagogue friends
that I only saw on the weekend; Pool friends from the summer; etcetera.
ERSA Swim Team 1976
(J is on back row, 1st male from the left.)
I
went to college 3 hours from home and didn't go home very often, so the process
started over in College. Still it followed the same pattern, friends were in
the same class(es), or lived close, or worked with me, or were friends of other
friends.
The
same pattern reestablished itself when I was married and in the Air Force.
Because life was a little more temporary, i.e. we moved more often, there might
not have been as many friends as I’d had at some times in my life, but I always
had someone I could invite to a Surprise Birthday party for my wife, or a
backyard barbecue or to watch the big game, or whatever event called for a
gathering.
Time
stands still for no man. I eventually ended up stationed in Oklahoma City and
divorced from my first wife. I made friends with people in the unit and I
frequented a Bar / Dance Club that featured Country Dance Lessons two nights a
week. The lessons were taught by a Country Dance Club and they’d match up
singles or get club members to fill-in. I met the club members and dated some
of the single ladies I met thru the lessons until I met my current wife. We
became active members of the Club and had backyard barbecues, bridal showers,
weddings, and weekends away at dance competitions. All of those activities I’d
already associated with being friends. I had lots of friends and our wedding
ceremony featured a fairly even grouping of co-workers, family, and dance club
friends.
Soon
after the wedding we transferred to Ramstein Germany and the process started
all over again. We didn't join any organizations, but we had neighbor friends
and coworker friends. Everything seemed normal to me.
Then
came the cascade of events that ended in my separating from the Air Force.
Those details may be discussed later, but for this post I’ll just say it was a
rough time in my life. I returned to the states to Florida because that was
where my parents lived and I had a FL Driver’s License in my pocket. (Military
members can pick and choose what state they like to call home. FL has no
personal income tax, so it is very popular.)
The
plan was to settle in Tampa and go back to school for my Master’s degree. I had
2 year’s rights to the commissary & medical care, so I had both a nearby
base and a University to attend. The same pattern “how to make friends and
influence people”* reasserted itself. We became friends with neighbors and
coworkers and classmates. Still it was a bit strained. I was working 40 hours a
week and attending classes for another 8? hours and had homework for another 8?
hours. (? = Yes, I’m just guessing at this time.) That meant I didn't have as
much time for friends and we couldn't always plan on every weekend being free.
* - Would that be a better post Title?
While
we were in Tampa the Apartment management had us all move out while they
renovated the buildings, we moved and neighbors moved elsewhere so we had less
geographic friends. Then graduation split up the classmates and all of a sudden
we had more time but less people to spend it with. Like my classmates, I was
looking for a job elsewhere, so I didn't really worry about it. I’d assumed it
was a temporary condition.
I
got that job elsewhere and we moved to Maryland. We had more family in the
area, so that was an improvement, but we knew we’d be moving into a house when
we found one so we didn’t make any friends around the apartment. Also my
coworkers were spread out over a much larger area. We generally all lived
within a 20 mile circle centered on Work, but we covered that circle from 7 o’clock
on the dial around to 3 or 4 o’clock. In some cases it could take 1.5 hour to
drive from my home to a coworker’s. We did buy a house, my first (at 41 years
old), and that only decreased the number of potential friends by spacing out
the living areas compared to the compactness of an apartment complex.
So
after 800 words, I get to the heart of the matter currently. I don’t have any
friends that I can invite to a backyard barbecue or to watch the big game. I’m
not involved in any organizations like the Elks, Moose, Rotary, etcetera. My
wife’s health has deteriorated so we’re not going dancing. I don’t have the
free time to leave the house to cultivate a friendship. I have a herd of cats
to care for. I’m the only driver in the house, so I have to do all of the
grocery shopping and other trips out of the house. I’m the cook and the maid.
I’m not complaining. I said ‘til death do us part and I really mean it this
time. I also said in sickness and in health. I will not leave the marriage this
time. I take responsibility for that decision and I stand by it. If I left,
Mrs. would have to live in an assisted living facility. She couldn't take care
of herself.
So
you, my friends, are the only friends I have. I only see little pictures of you
on my tiny electronic screens. Are you real? I’ve met some of you in-person,
face to face, so I know that some of you are real, but that accounts for less
than 100 of you on Twitter. (I follow close to 2000. About 1200 follow me.)
When it comes to FaceBook, the number I’ve met in person is higher because it
includes friends from childhood, High School, College, and more distant family.
If
we define a friend as someone that can feed your cats if a death in the family
calls you out of town unexpectedly, or come to your rescue if your car runs out
of gas, or bail you out if arrested, I’d be lucky if I had 5 people I could
call on. (I know the last two are covered by roadside
assistance & bail bondsmen, but the first is a real concern.)
I
don’t like this situation, but I’m at a loss as to how to fix it. Is this
normal in our society today? Are there millions out there just like me? Is this a stage in everyone's life or does it relate specifically to frequent moving and not setting roots? Is it
right for me to join an organization that’ll take time away from managing my
household? What about Mrs? Surely she feels lonely too. I’m the only person she
sees most days. We do get out of the house for shopping together at least
weekly. I’d probably go stir crazy if I was that limited. At least I get to
interact with coworkers at the office.
This
is the longest, the most personal, and the saddest post I've written. It should
be in blood red; I've poured my life onto the page. Do you have any
insight? Can you help me? Answer in Comments or via email to 7shore at gmail.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
How snarky is too snarky?
Friends,
This is my free space to say anything I want to; my
online diary. It’s not about sharing secrets per se, but rather about
discussing whatever is on my mind.
I’ve seen a number of discussions recently about the
smarminess of online conversations with different ‘experts’ opining that
anonymity makes it easier for the worst behavior to show up. I don’t really
want to get into a discussion of all of the possible reasons for the level of *snarkiness
/ cynicism / rudeness / whatever term you prefer* to be on the rise. I have my opinion, like everyone else, but I
long ago learned that opinions are like assholes: everyone has one and they all
smell about the same.
I’m more interested in raising the level of online
civility and I’m not alone. I’m
participating in a Social Experiment – The No Library Whining Zone. For 24
hours, we pledge not to complain or whine about libraries publically. Details
at http://librariankate7578.com/2013/05/01/the-no-library-whining-zone-a-social-experiment/
{Acknowledgements
to Kate Kosturski, Andy Woodworth, Liz Burns, and Steve Thomas. If you haven’t
heard their names, they are Librarian Rockstars, Movers & Shakers in the Library
World, and Big in Lithuania (inside joke that 100 or so people will laugh at).}
I don’t need to expand on Kate’s blog, but I have
thought it would be great to expand this experiment outside of the Library
world to everyone online. I envision a NoWhineWednesday movement. In which we
declare every Wednesday to be Whine Free on all Social Media sites. Will you
join me?
Here are some inspirational pictures that hang on my
cubicle walls.
Recognize
that we are not all alike
Ensure
expectations are clear
Seek
to be inclusive
Project
a positive outlook
Explore
other’s viewpoints
Communicate
for understanding
Treat
others as they wish to be treated
Wishing everyone a peaceful day free of whining and
complaints.
Namaste,
Jules
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